And the other thing I keep reminding myself over and over, practically every hour, is that the process is the goal. The means to the end cannot be separated from the end. If you are not feeling now what you want to be feeling and being as you do what you think will get you there, you’ve got it backwards. You cannot shame yourself into doing anything, even if you think you will be happy on the other side, and not end up shamed. You can’t punish or rush or deprive yourself into being joyful or relaxed or having it all (whatever that means). How you are right now means everything. Is everything. There really isn’t anything else that matters. Because this is what you take with you when you get wherever it is you think you need to go.